At the age of 20 months the “tough time” for my baby son Ian (and parents) came along to start kindergarten. Ian is a very affectionate, sweet and sensitive child, who really enjoys being with his parents all the time and he’s very much attached to us. We thought for a long time what could be the most suitable solution to help the whole family with work and growth at all levels. So we decided to take him to the kindergarten where he could relate and play with children of his age, in a safe and beautiful learning environment, while we could have more time for working and more time for ourselves, since we want to give a good quality love and presence to our son! We found a very nice place in nature where babies and toddlers can play outside freely and happily, enjoying the sunshine and the garden. The teachers are Steiner education trained, thus first of all considering children as human beings to be loved and respected and not only like children to be “educated”. Little Ian since he was a little baby used to love flowers and pick them up as soon as he saw one. His passion for flowers was enormously amplified with the use of the Australian Bush Flower Essences since he was in mum’s belly. He’s been taking the essences for any sort of circumstances and he’s a strong and healthy child: we gave him Bottlebrush and Red Helmet Orchid for mother and father child-bonding, Fringed Violet to close his aura at birth, Bottlebrush to improve breastfeeding and other blends for teething, sleeping patterns, traveling, coping with change to another country and at last with separation anxiety.
We understood that the period in which our kid adapts to kindergarten is essential: both for him and for us, the parents. In many occasions there can be anxiety due to the separation; the parents fear what may happen, and the child feels he is being abandoned, thus not loved anymore.
The first week of adaptation was easier for both of us as the teachers allowed me to be there with him: he was playing around by himself, sometimes relating to other toddlers and sometimes looking for me. That week together contributed to a stronger bond between us and made the way “harder” to separate from each other. On the second week the teachers said it was the appropriate time to leave him there alone and I made up a bottle of the following Australian Bush Flower Essences to give to little Ian 7 drops morning and night and help him:
- Bottlebrush for the mother – child bonding and to support him to separate from me in a healthy way and cope with change;
- Red Suva Frangipani – for the raw grief about being separated from his mum;
- Crowea – for the anxiety and the worries about mum going away and being there at the kindergarten without her;
- Tall Yellow Top for the feelings of abandonment;
- Isopogon for learning from the experience that every day mum is taking little Ian to school and then she will come back to get him again.
I took the following blend 7 drops morning and night to support myself as we were going through the same process (and actually it’s very important every time you treat a child you should treat the mother or the father as well!):
- Bottlebrush for the mother – child bonding and to help me to separate from him in a healthy way and cope with change;
- Sturt Desert Rose for the guilty feelings of leaving him there and making him suffer, thus not being a “good mother”;
- Red Suva Frangipani – for the raw grief about being separated from him;
- Crowea – for the worries about whether he was crying and missing me.
After a couple of days of processing all these emotions, we get to another space of peace and serenity. By the end of that week we were both more able to cooperate and communicate at a deeper level with a great sense of trusting each other. Now baby Ian is waking up in the morning looking forward to going to kindergarten and playing with his peers and it seems like he has already a new baby “girlfriend”!
Sara Trabalza, our College teacher in Italy